How Much Communication Between Your Partner and His Ex-Wife is Appropriate?

April 19, 2023

Communication with an ex-partner can be a delicate issue, particularly when it comes to a former spouse. If you’re in a relationship with someone who has an ex-wife, you may be wondering how much communication between them is too much.

At Aspire Family Mediation, we understand that this can be a complex and emotional issue. In this article, we’ll explore the topic in depth and provide guidance on how to navigate this situation.

Factors to Consider

There are a number of factors to consider when determining an appropriate level of communication between your partner and his ex-wife. Some of the key factors include:

  • The nature of their relationship: It’s important to consider the reasons why your partner and his ex-wife are communicating. If they share children, for example, there may be a need to discuss co-parenting arrangements. However, if they don’t have children together, it’s important to understand why they’re still in contact.
  • Your partner’s intentions: It’s important to consider your partner’s intentions when communicating with his ex-wife. Is he trying to maintain a friendly relationship, or is he hoping to rekindle their romance? Understanding your partner’s motivations can help you determine an appropriate level of communication.
  • Your own feelings: It’s natural to feel uncomfortable when your partner is in contact with his ex-wife. However, it’s important to consider whether your feelings are based on jealousy or if there are valid concerns about the nature of their relationship.

How Much is Too Much?

Determining how much communication between your partner and his ex-wife is too much can be challenging. Ultimately, the answer will depend on the unique circumstances of your relationship.

In general, however, communication should be limited to what is necessary for co-parenting or other relevant issues. If your partner and his ex-wife are communicating excessively or about topics that don’t concern you, it’s important to discuss your concerns with your partner in a calm and respectful manner.

Advantages of Mediation

If you’re struggling to determine an appropriate level of communication between your partner and his ex-wife, mediation may be a useful option. Mediation involves working with a neutral third party to identify the issues and find a mutually acceptable solution.

Some of the advantages of mediation include:

  • A more collaborative and cooperative approach
  • Greater control over the outcome
  • Lower costs and faster resolution
  • The ability to focus on the needs of everyone involved


Communication between your partner and his ex-wife can be a difficult issue to navigate. However, by considering the factors involved, discussing your concerns with your partner, and seeking outside help if necessary, you can find a solution that works for everyone involved.

At Aspire Family Mediation, we’re here to help you navigate this complex issue and find a solution that allows your relationship to thrive. Whether you opt for mediation or simply need some guidance and support, our experienced team can provide the assistance you need to move forward.